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Hi guys! This isn’t a blog (opinionated) post. Just an informative article sent to us that we thought you can benefit from. Psychology Coach Miriam Akhtar tells you 10 ways to live a happy, negative-free mind. Read on…

Kellogs Special K, based upon their research, recently evealed that ‘fat talk’ – the negative comments we make criticizing our bodies and others’ – is wreaks havoc with our relationships.

It’s no secret that thinking positively is important to getting in shape, yet more than two thirds (70%) of British women admit they ‘fat talk’ and criticise their body with their partners at least once a day. A third (37%) would be prepared to end a relationship over jibes directed at them by a partner, whilst more than half (54%) said they feel too insecure about their bodies to be intimate with partners who ‘fat talk’ incessantly.

The research revealed that celebrities can have a positive influence on our perception of body image.  Adele, Beyoncé and Kelly Brook are held up as the most inspirational women when it comes to banishing ‘fat talk’ and embracing a positive state of mind about their body shapes. Other celebrities such as Victoria Beckham, Kate Moss and Karl Lagerfeld – who famously criticized Adele’s weight – were named by respondents as the most negative shape role models.

Positivity Psychology Coach Miriam Akhtar explained the need to break the cycle of fat talk: “As many of us head into the New Year carrying a few extra pounds, it is natural to feel extra sensitive about our appearance.  At this time of year it’s important to remind ourselves and our loved ones that a positive approach can pay dividends when it comes to getting in shape.”     

“Our brains are naturally wired to focus more on the negative than the positive, so we need to work that bit harder to train our minds to appreciate our best assets”, Miriam continued.   

To help, Special K commissioned Miriam to create a Positivity Plan which reveals the simple steps for a life free from negativity. Special K also offers a variety of delicious food options for a balanced diet including cereal, porridge, cereal bars and cracker crisps.

Developed by Miriam Akhtar, MSc in Applied Positive Psychology

We all know that having a positive mental attitude is beneficial for our well-being. It is all too easy, however, to allow negative thoughts to cloud our judgment. Miriam Akhtar reveals the 10 steps for a healthy, happier state of mind free from negativity. 

  1.  Train your brain: Your brain has a negativity bias, so it’s crucial to focus on your positive assets– great sense of humor, lovely smile – to help you aim for success every day.
  2.  Stay kind: When you perform an act of kindness for someone, both you and the recipient feel good which leads to positivity bouncing back and forth between you.
  3. Be an optimist: Recognize that temporary set backs are just that – temporary. Thinking this way helps build a more positive state of mind.  
  4. Think small: Build confidence by making small goals and recognizing every single achievement.
  5. Live your life purpose: Look ahead and make plans.  Making progress towards your vision will give you a sense of satisfaction and boost your positivity.
  6. Get perspective: Think about life in more flexible terms. Negative beliefs can turn into monsters, so do your best to put them in perspective and think of what action you can take.
  7. Cherish love: Love is the queen of positive emotions, but for a relationship to truly flourish you need a ratio of 5:1 positive to negative emotions. Boost your well-being by being as social as you can and nurturing your life-affirming relationships.
  8. Thank-you Therapy: Take some time at the end of every day to think about what’s gone well, what’s good in your life and what you are grateful for.
  9. Bring the Fun Factor: Do what you love – the fun, enjoyable and healthy things in life maximize the joy in your positivity machine. 
  10. Do it for you: Having positive motivations for success maximizes your chances.  ‘Intrinsic motivation’ is where you’re motivated to do something for its own sake and is more likely to work than an extrinsic motivation.





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